Pain is a part of life. Relationships are hard. Difficult events leave you wondering how you are going to make it through. Finding a therapist who gets it can be overwhelming. We know your situation is complex and explaining it to a stranger can feel scary. The therapists at the Center for Family Transformation want to link arms with you in the struggle, give support and care for your unique situation and offer hope for the future.
Struggling alone is overwhelming. There are so many people in the world...so many that struggle the same way you do. You may feel alone, but really you aren’t. Research shows that group therapy can be among the most effective methods of treatment.
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What Professionals are Saying
“I am honored to support the Center for Family Transformation in the amazing work they do with adolescents, young adults and their families. Their stellar service and quality therapy are evidenced with the clients I refer, and they have my full endorsement as a leading center in the community. “
Tina Wehner, Executive Director
Living Well Counseling Associates
“My experience working with the Center for Family Transformation has been and continues to be very rewarding. It is refreshing to find a practice that cares as much about its clients as CFT does. The professionalism, commitment to education, caring and holistic support are unparalleled. I look forward to continued collaboration.”
Dr. Tiffany Brown-Bush MS, LPC, ND
“We highly recommend and support Center for Family Transformation. They have a passion for excellence, growth, and learning that is contagious not only with their clientele, but also with the colleagues they encounter. We look forward to continuing our working relationship.”
Kannapolis Counseling Group
(Maria Russell, LPCS – Samantha Sult, LPC –
Jodi Hinkson, LPCA – Clay Parker, LPC)
What the Community is Saying
“We support and believe in the work of the Center for Family Transformation. It is a blessing for us to refer others to, knowing that we can put our trust and confidence in like-minded individuals.”
John and Deralyn Steigerwald, Directors,
North Carolina Boys Academy (Teen Challenge Facility)
“This is not just a job for these therapists, but a personal calling to come alongside those who are struggling and give them skills and support to overcome the challenges they face. I ]wholeheartedly recommend the Center for Family Transformation to anyone who is looking for more than just a “band-aid” fix, and who really wants to come to a place of wholeness in their life.”
Erin Blackmore, Executive Director,
HopeMatch (Local Non-Profit), Wife and Mother of Two Adopted Children
“The therapists at the Center for Family Transformation have tremendous passion for helping individuals achieve and thrive at their fullest potential. They have a unique ability to meet their clients where they are and guide them through a process to get where they want to be. I highly recommend CFT to anyone looking to get more out of their life!”
Rebecca Moellendick, Active Community Member,
Professional Actress, Wife and Mother of Two
There are both advantages and drawbacks to out-of-pocket private payment and to using insurance and Medicaid. Obviously, the biggest drawback of out-of-pocket private pay is that it is an immediate out-of-pocket expense. However, there are several advantages to paying privately that may make the expense worthwhile.
Confidentiality and Privacy
Clients who pay out of pocket are guaranteed that the only people who know the details of therapy are themselves and their therapist. Aside from normal limits to confidentiality, therapy is completely confidential, without any third party being privy to information exchanged in session.
Service Without Hindrances, Pressure or Stigma
Most insurance providers require a mental health diagnosis in order for therapy to be covered. This means that many issues (such as marital problems, life stress, or personal growth) are often not covered by insurance.
Regarding Insurance…When clients pay out-of-pocket, there is no requirement of a mental health diagnosis for treatment, which means that anyone can seek treatment without concern. Private pay also carries the additional benefit of reducing pressure to diagnose individuals who simply need help coping with some areas of life, but who do not have a specific mental health diagnosis. Finally, treatment without the necessity of a mental health diagnosis means that the stigma of some diagnoses can often be avoided. It is important to understand that once a diagnosis becomes a part of your permanent medical record, it can potentially affect the consideration of future policies, such as: life insurance, short and long term disability or educational and other future life opportunities for young adults.
Freedom in Treatment
Private pay clients have complete control of the duration and style of their treatment. Modalities that are ethically viable, but not covered by insurance are open to private pay clients. Private pay clients are able to choose the focus of their therapy, the duration of therapy, and the frequency of therapy, and even the length of individual sessions.
Research shows that clients who have to pay something for their treatment have more positive outcomes that those who receive free treatment. Not only do you get what you pay for, but the fact that you are paying out of pocket provides extra motivation and incentive to make the most of therapy.
Therapy, especially when you are paying out-of-pocket, is always an additional expense, in more ways than one. There are travel expenses and the time commitment that it takes to make therapy effective. However, the rewards can greatly outweigh temporary monetary costs. How much is too much to pay for peace of mind, the renewal of a relationship, or finally finding freedom in an area of life that has previously seemed unattainable? $500? $1000? $5000? Some people would pay ten times that to experience the real progress and change that can happen in therapy. What is the change you are seeking worth to you?
Regarding Insurance…If you have further questions, do not hesitate to Contact Us!
Assessments in Therapy
- Prepare-Enrich Marriage Assessment
- Symbis Marriage Assessment
- Gottman Relationship Inventory
- SDI-Sexual Dependency Inventory
- PTSI-Post-Traumatic Stress Inventory
- MAWASI-Money and Work Adaptive Styles Index
- PSS-Partner Sexuality Survey
- SAST-Sexual Addiction Screening Test
- Sexual Anorexia Inventory
- Spiritual Gifts Inventory
- Sexual Addiction Risk Assessment (SARA)
- Internet Sex Screening Test (ISST)
- The “Betrayal Bond” Index Test (BBI)
- Dissociative Experience Scale (DES)
- Experiences in Close Relationships Scale (ECR)
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Welcome back to The Flexible Mind blog series. My recent posts have been for the purpose of
explaining how to relate to your thoughts in a new, less judgmental, more open-minded way, a
rare skill in our society. The information in The Flexible Mind comes from Acceptance and
Commitment Therapy (ACT), a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). ACT
offers valuable resources and concepts for overcoming anxiety and other emotional
As a reminder, a flexible mind is one that loosens the grip on compulsive thoughts and feelings
versus being controlled by these worries and fears. Part one of this three-part series outlined an
important aspect of having a flexible mind: the ability to defuse thoughts that dominate and
overwhelm. Part two focused on taking thoughts from a place of dominance to a place of
presence by attuning the mind, emotions, and body to what you are experiencing in the
present moment. In part three, I will describe how personal values and committed action
toward those values play an important role in mental flexibility.
Let’s begin by describing values. Values are freely chosen virtues that you choose to live out and
which represent who you are. Our values are connected to ourselves, our relationships, and our
way of living. At a high level, valuing is the process of creating meaning in life. Valuing is evident
when you choose behaviors that are consistent with what you care about 1 . For instance, if one
of your values is to care for your body by eating healthy foods, you will not eat the double-
chocolate cookies that are left out at work. However, while attending your grandmother’s 95 th
birthday party, you might eat a slice of cake made from your grandmother’s famous recipe.
Why the difference in these scenarios? Although you value healthy eating, honoring family is
also one of your highest values. Your grandmother’s legacy takes priority over eating healthy,
so you indulge without guilt or shame.
Living out your values is an important part of having a flexible mind because it prevents you
from fusing with negative thoughts and emotions. In the previous example, if you were not
aware of your values and you made those same two choices, you may have felt guilty while
eating the birthday cake due to the clash between important parts of your life. Days later, you
might continue to have negative thoughts, maybe even resigning to the idea that you are a
failure. Eventually, you would tell yourself that since you are a failure, you should eat whatever
you want from now on. This progression represents what happens when a person is not living
out her values, and she is fused with negative thoughts. She might become caught in a loop of
negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that move her in the opposite direction of her
Behaving with your values in mind moves you outside that negative loop and toward your
purpose and identity. The first step in this process is to identify the values that represent you,
your relationships, and your way of life. The second step is to identify the actions you can take
that directly correlate, or align, with your values. For instance, if one of your values is to be a
life-long learner, the actions you might take to live out this value will focus on reading
interesting books, listening to podcasts, taking educational classes, and attending conferences.
By knowing the actions that allow you to live out this value, you will commit to take action by
scheduling your life with those activities.
If you would like to increase your mental flexibility by working on your values, you can start by
making a list. Take a piece of paper and make a vertical line down the center of it as well as a
horizontal list directly across it in the center of the paper. Once complete, you will have a table
with two columns and two rows. Write out your values on the left, upper box and your negative
thoughts and emotions on the right, upper box. Under your values in the left, lower box, write
out the behaviors that help you move toward your values. In the right, lower box, write out the
negative behaviors you engage in when you are fused with negative negative thoughts and emotions. It might look something like this:
Negative Thoughts and Emotions
Behaviors Leading to Values
Behaviors Leading to Negative Thoughts/Emotions
Use these lists to help you take committed action to move toward your values (the right column). The left column will help you recognize when you are moving away from your values and the right side will help you be aware of who you want to be, as well as what you do to live out those values.
Growing in mental flexibility has the ability to decrease anxiety and depression as well as improve relationships. If you are struggling with any of the issues outlined in this blog series, feel free to reach out and schedule an appointment with a therapist at the Center for Family Transformation (CFT). If you would like to learn more about mental flexibility and ACT, you may be interested in reading A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters, by Steven Hayes2, creator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
Hayes, L. & Coyne, L. ACT conversations cards. ContextualScience.org. Retrieved from https://contextualscience.org
Hayes, S. (2019). A liberated mind: How to pivot toward what matters. New York, NY: Avery.
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